It’s Christmas time

Lewisham where I live have now had their Christmas lights up for two weeks which is even earlier than normal. I found it very depressing and can’t even begin to think how I might “celebrate” Christmas after a year like this. What will others be doing? I doubt I’ll be spending it with family as households are not allowed to have guests.

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Hi @Franko, how are you doing? Yes, I don’t want to think about Christmas either. However, I am awaiting the birth of my first Grandchild any day now, so I have something to keep me going. I know it’s difficult, but have you replanned any of your trips that you were going on this year? Even in your head? I visit the Maldives, Barbados and lots of City breaks, in my mind, every day! I cannot wait to travel again - I just hope that my health holds up! Your town is very early with the Christmas lights! Perhaps they are just trying to inject a bit of cheer in this gloomy world we find ourselves in? Let’s not think too much about Christmas yet, as we well know, people like us have to take one day at a time

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Oh, @Lulu, I love the idea of travelling in your head, I bet the weather is lovely every day, all your outings go to plan and the food amazing.
Who needs to think about Christmas.
Please keep letting us know about the birth of your fist grandchild and your virtual travelling?

Hi @Franko, one of the advantages of not going near any shops is that I am not subjected to the continuous carols.
I have however got my Blood Cancer UK Christmas cards already.
I have to admit I do love to see festive lights and decorations.
I am a girl for my decorations in the flat.
I am lucky to live with my husband here and I am going to admit something now, I love my husbands family dearly, but I would really love a Christmas here with just ‘me and him’, the telly and chocolates.
I realise though for so many people it is a very lonely, depressing time of year, especially after the year of isolation we have all had.

Hi @Erica, hope you are well. I am going to keep on travelling in my head for the foreseeable- I’ll let you know where I go next! :grinning:. I had one of those just “me and him” Christmas’s last year. I must say I really enjoyed it. Got up late, had some croissants, couldn’t be bothered to make the dinner, so we had bacon sandwiches. In the evening we had a meat and cheeseboard. There was no rushing around to be at someone’s at a certain time and we did absolutely nothing all day - Bliss. Not saying I’d want to do that every year, but it doesn’t hurt once in a while. Maybe you could start planting the idea now? See how it goes

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Oh, @Lulu, your Christmas sounded wonderful and yes, I have already planned my Christmas in my head !!!

Hi @Lulu, @Franko and @Erica. My two children love Christmas do it’s hard not to get excited. However, I must say if I can just stay in my pjs all day and not have to go anywhere I’d be happy. Off course I’ll miss seeing everybody lots and lots but pjs are quite appealing!

I understand it’s different when you live alone or may not have family close by. @Franko, you’ve had so much going on. I completely agree that this is way too early for Christmas lights! One day at a time is definitely my motto at the moment, sometimes just a couple of hour at a time. How has travelling been for you this week?

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Yes @Nichola75 having children in the house makes such a difference. We haven’t had any for a long, long time which I guess is why the magic has worn off. I know what you mean @Erica. I used to love all of us gathered around on Christmas Day years ago but as the years went by less and less of the family came. I’ve been really ill 2 out of the last 3 Christmases. I can understand the just wanting to eat chocolates and no fuss approach. In 2018 I was having 2 doses of chemo on Christmas week and my mum had just died so I didn’t venture to Birmingham but I found it strangely pleasant just being me. I booked into a hotel somewhere more green in between chemo days and just did what pleased me with no stress. It was very strange but I think secretly I’d been wanting to do that for years :wink:

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I too am wondering how Christmas may look and feel. We normally spend it with my parents in Northern Ireland (hubby’s family from there too) - this year my dad will just have, hopefully, finished some gruelling chemo and radiotherapy (starting this Mon Oct 12) and the thought of not being able to go is heartbreaking. Whether there are Covid19 restrictions in place that mean we can’t stay with family or whether the mere fact that travelling places my dad at too high a risk (never mind hubby with his cancer). I’m determined to not focus on this just now tho and take it all a day at a time - we really can’t change what’s happening or might happen and our job, nearer the time, is to adapt and cope as best we can. Take care folks

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Hi @judesadventures, I will be sending your dad even more extra special loving virtual thoughts and a supply of hugs for both your parents and you and your family for when he starts his treatment on Mon 12th, please keep posting how he is doing and what it is like to be you so far away. Look after yourselves xx

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I love Christmas, the shopping, wrapping the presents and receiving and sending cards. I think this year it will be much more virtual. I hope we can plan to meet my daughters prior to Christmas in a park or open space to exchange presents, if not I’ll have an expensive postage bill! I don’t mind spending the day just me and my husband though I will miss seeing the grandchildren. I think once this is over I will just arrange for us all to go out for a meal - as the whole family would be 13 of us I can’t see that happening any time soon.

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Yes @Joan, who knows what the future will be. How are you doing in these weird times?

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Erica, I am well at present. Improving my IT skills by hosting our Support Group via Zoom. As I am in North West expect we will be in greater lockdown after the announcement on Monday. Thank goodness can do my exercise classes via Zoom, keep my brain occupied by learning Spanish and order food on line! Hope you are well too.

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Him @Joan, yes, I am quite happy in my little routine here, on line food shopping, a daily morning walk and pilates dvd’s keep me out of mischief.