Hi @Maggie1 I found that good family and friends were more honest with me when I was more honest with them.
I reckon that slow and steady wins the race.
Be very kind to and look after yourself
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Hi Maggie, what you have to remember is that everyone is different and will react differently so take each day as it comes and dont fret about what might happen. You can get counselling referral which might help. I had a first session cos its hard not to be so anxious xx
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Im reading through this thread and ive had the same! ‘You look well!’ Like what did they expect i was gonna look like?!?
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Yes, I’ve had that too - never quite know how to respond. I know they mean well - if they could only see into my head!
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I’m in my sixth week of treatment But I still find the diagnosis really hard. I was so healthy and fit it came out of the blue. Sometimes I seem to be handling it really well and others my mind just goes down a negative route and it’s a real struggle to pull out of it
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Oh @Jonoula a great big welcome to our support forum.
As I read your post I remembered having similar oscillating thoughts and feelings to you.
I personally thought it was my shock process and I reckon my thoughts and feelings have been on high alert ever since my diagnosis. Sometimes they are not even logical.
Yes, I certainly think that it is far more difficult to get myself out of the negatives.
The Blood Cancer UK support line is there for you on 0808 2080 888.
Personally I would say give yourself time, be ever so kind to yourself and really look after yourself and please do keep posting.
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I’m definitely still in the shock phase - just had my 5th treatment and still trying to come to terms with it all. Some days I almost forget but then I get days when I feel so overwhelmed. Everyone keeps telling me how strong I am but I’m not really and I’m beginning to think I need to stop trying so hard to be the Me everyone knew before.
I’ve got three wonderful daughters but I’ve been doing the Mum thing and keeping how I really feel from them - which means my husband gets all the flak. They’re all adults with their own families but perhaps I should be leaning on them a bit more - at least that would give hubby a break 
Glad I found this forum
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@Maggie1 one of the hardest things I have found is to ask for and receive help.
It comes from childhood.
I have found opening up to my son has meant that he opens up more to me now.
Be very kind and really look after yourselves and please do keep posting
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