Mum got diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma

Hello everyone

My mum got diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma in Dec 2023. Her diagnosis came as a shock to us all.

She has been on a regime of weekly Velcade injections with Daratumumab infusions as well for the last 2 months

We met her doctor yesterday and she now wants my mum to be on Cyclo tablets on a weekly basis as well.

In all this, I feel alot of anger, hurt and rage.

How do I deal while being an effective caregiver for her?


Hello @Fishballsambz and welcome to our forum family.
I know what you mean about feeling anger, hurt and range. I think being a family member is so hard as your Mum can probably make her own decisions, which you might not agree with and you are powerless over this and being able to make her better
This might mean a role reversal which might be difficult for both of you.
Perhaps you have personal commitments that you might have to reconsider and it curtails your lifestyle and quality of you life.
How to be an effective caregiver is your question and I think that depends on both your needs and relationship with each other.
There are emotional and practical needs for both of you and it might mean spending quality time together or shopping, cleaning, cooking, gardening, travelling to appointments or visiting in hospital, etc I think it might be a matter of offering and doing.
It might be a thankless task and nobody asks how the carer is.
I attach the link to the Blood Cancer UK website details on Multiple Myeloma and being a family member
[Myeloma | Blood Cancer UK]( My friend or family member has blood cancer | Blood Cancer UKcancer/myeloma/)
I felt I needed help which I got through my GP and talking therapy to say how it really was for me and my feelings.
Personally it is so important to look after yourself as well.
Our forum and the Blood Cancer UK support line on 0808 2080 888 are both there for you to say how it really is for you
Be kind to yourself and please do keep posting


Hello Erica,

Thank you for your reply and link to resources

Yes to taking care of myself; right now it all feels like a blur

Thank you once again

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