Oh @Ells you knight in shining armour, you.
You and your mum really are a team aren’t you, so sensitive to each others needs
I decided to cook a nice meal for Valentines Day so the duck legs went in the oven and on time.
Then I went to put the steamer on to cook the veg, on time again, and the chocolate sponge with gooey middle that needed careful timing to stay gooey.
I then went to lovingly baste the duck legs and guess what the oven wasn’t working.
So quickly moved the duck to a Pyrex dish and shoved it in the microwave.
Success dinner served up just 5 min late and duck in orange sauce was scrummy and the choccy pud was still gooey in the middle.
Yes, no news is good news in my book.
Happy every day I say !!!
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Hey @Erica @Nichola75
Thank you we do work well together.
We’ve always said we can do things together and what one can’t do the other can especially if I can help mum sort that room out then I will I understand where she’s coming from too…
I really wish the weather would cheer up I’m fed up with it… Mum has disappeared on me for the last week she’s been visiting my uncle today is the first day I’ve spoken to her so we had a lovely chat…
Your valentines dinner sounded lovely omg no… What timing for your oven to break good old microwave to the rescue… Things our end didn’t go as well… We decided not to speak for a week but in the end we have now sorted things out and are working at getting our relationship back to how it was when we first met…
No news is definitely good news now… We’re still sorting things out in the house but we are definitely getting there…
It’s been bloods day today so check up time next week yay see if I’m still doing well…
Hope you’re all doing good
Happy what’s left of Friday 
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Hi @Ells yes, relationships do take working at and I often have to look at how my behaviour might be perceived by others.
Be kind to yourselves
I still get anxious before and during all medical appointments, I hope your bloods are OK so please let us know how your check up time goes next week.
Happy weekend all xx
Hi @Erica
All is good thank you… My bloods are good… He’s a bit concerned about other medication I’m taking along with the aspirin but that’s down to the gp to take a look at… Everything is good in the world… We’ve gone back to watching films together we curl up after dinner and watch a film sometimes 2 depending on whether I’ve fallen asleep or not I do have a habit of getting too comfy doesn’t matter how good the film is I will drop off…
I’m off to mums on Sunday for a week it was planned however since planning the trip she has a hospital appointment which was timing so we’re doing all the covid tests and isolation so she can go to that… I’ll look after her before we both come back here… Littlun has been pestering us to see her which is why we arranged the trip… She’s coming to stay with us for 3 weeks he’s going to be so happy… Every week it’s been is granny coming today so cute… We phoned her last weekend he loved that even asked to see her dog he loves the dog… He’s looking forward to that so much i won’t have too much trouble leaving Sunday… If he does play up we got the back up of a phone call when I get there… He doesnt like it when I’m not there… I really have no Idea why the only thing we can ever put it down to is daves wife passed away the year before I met him… It was really hard on the pair of them… We think he thinks I’m not coming back to him so I tend not to go out so much when he’s about… Which probably makes things worse… But he can’t express himself its like at the moment he’s gone back to sleeping in our bed and we don’t know why… Something is wrong but we can’t get it out of him… He’s extremely clingy towards us and we don’t know why but in himself he just as happy…
Anyho happy Friday I hope you’re all doing good… I really must start that thing called exercise again I’ve not been for a walk since I pulled a muscle me pull a muscle that’s a joke you’d think I run a marathon not walk down the road and back 
Have a great weekend everyone xx
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I have read your post @Ells and got a warm glow for you all, how you have turned your life around is so heart warming.
How wonderful to curl up together in the evenings and watch films.
Yes, it does not matter how good a programme/film is and I don’t even feel my eyes droop, I go off to sleep instantly.
Enjoy your week with your mum and please let us know how her hospital appointment goes.
Then she is coming back with you.
I bet Littlun is overjoyed.
Isn’t it difficult when you cannot find out why he appears anxious and clingy, it could be anything.
As for that word ‘exercise’ perhaps you and your mum can make a plan now that spring is springing.
I am sure that Littlun will have some ideas for you too.!!!
I am useless at meditation, I start writing a mental shopping list, so I am now doing a Pilates 10 min stretch instead to release the stresses of the day.
Enjoy your weekend and week with your mum.
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Hi @Erica
I am trying so hard to get thing right it’s it so difficult for me and my anxiety… It kicked off again while I was away so another argument occurred but alls good again… I’m working on that…
I know my head seems to hit daves lap for a cuddle and I’m off lol he has the nicest cuddles ever . We’ve been watching loads of films I’ve not seen before older ones which surprised him.
Mums hospital appointments went OK she has to put it simply an infection in her stomach so strong antibiotics to sort that out. They only went in to look at her liver as she has issues with that. It’s something they will be keeping an eye on so I’m a couple of years they’ll do the scan again…
We came home today to a poorly dave he’s got covid so I’m nurse maid but I’ve been away for so long I didn’t want to be away any longer and he’s poorly he needs looking after.
I’ve had all my jabs so I’m as safe as I’m going to be… Will just have to make sure I’m around him as little as possible and mask up…
Oh yes of course the dreaded exercise I’ve been in so much pain lately it’s taken a back seat… Dave got me an exercise bike as per the consultants instructions I’ve not plucked up the courage to get on it yet as I struggle to get up stairs I really don’t think cycling will help… I have meditation things on my phone which does help I should use them they do help me drop off to sleep…
I’ve not tried pilates but did get a dvd I it was either yoga or pilates for beginners. Me and dave were going to do it together… It’s still in the wrapper
Me and mum have had so much fun omg we’ve been binging on cakes and chocolate I darent weigh myself 
I hope you’ve all had a good week
Happy Wednesday everyone xx
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Hi @Ells great to hear from you.
Do you feel that you might need a little extra help with your anxiety, especially if it effects your relationships with your nearest and dearest.
It will be interesting to see how getting your diet back to normal effects your anxiety
Oh what a wonderful compliment to say about Dave that he gives the nicest cuddles ever.
There are so many brilliant films out there aren’t there.
I am glad that your mum is on the road to recovery and I hope the strong antibiotics work.
Poor Dave having Covid so the tables are turned as you are now nurse maid.
I might actually change the focus of your mind.
If you do try the yoga or pilates DVD sometime and find it far to hard, don’t worry just do what you can, like the breathing and stretching and get the basic principals. Don’t forget they look at it as a healthy person being the beginner.
I don’t know how you will find the bike, let me know when you try it, perhaps when you are made redundant as the nurse maid !!!
Yes, have a good week all of you and send my best to poor Dave
Hi @Erica
Yes sometimes I do… I’ve had counselling before about going out etc which causes alot of anxiety for me so I do have some paperwork from that I should look at it again and work on what I was told to do…
Diet is out of the window my awesome son decided to get me chocolates for mothers day and alot of them so I’ve been munching my way through them he knows how to get on the right side of me he also got me a lovely Teddy and a cup to add to my collection of cups… It’s if in doubt buy mum teddies and cups
Oh me too she seems to be ok bad case of hay-fever we think… She only seems to have a cough when she’s at ours and I said maybe it’s because we have grass and she doesn’t she’s really suffering with that atm…
Oh yes and I’m absolutely shattered especially as we still had little at the weekend very little sleep and running around after 2 children and my mother… I’m not sure how I’m still going… I hope he tests negative soon… On the bright side he’s starting to feel better and I spent an hour on the phone yesterday to test and trace getting myself a pcr test just in case as I’ve not been sent one yet and contacted my surgery this morning to tell them they need to sort it out. Where my blood cancer is concerned they’re useless I’m forever telling them what they need to do for me…
Being nurse maid I’ve lost my mind I’ve lost count of the a lost of washing I’ve done making sure I have clean masks every day so I can keep myself safe and so far it’s working…
I think If I ever find the dvd I might give it a try some deep breathing exercises might do me some good as for the stretching well anything is worth a laugh isn’t it
Oh yes of course I will… I may need to sleep for a week first and then try the bike 
Thank you and you have a good week too ill be back on again soon…
Xx
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Hi @Ells you certainly have a lot of helpful tools in your rucksack to utilise.
my husband and son both got me the same Thornton choccies (on offer at you local Sainsburys) but the are (were) yummy.
My son got me a lovely card with a ‘Simply the Best’ badge on it that I have been wearing with pride.
Glad you are keeping safe.
Yes, looking after others is very tiring and the unsung heroes.
I have been very brave and been to the dentist and opticians, both went well and felt very safe.
Look after yourself as well as you are looking after others.
Hi @Erica
Long time no speak my days just seem to disappear atm i think its all the meds doing it to me im always losing track of time…
I hope all is well with you. Oh wow dentist and optician’s that is brave of you ive been to the dentist this week and yep i need a filling… must be all the cakes ive been eating since i gave up smoking yep ive finally done it coming up for 3 weeks and feeling good about it for a change and i think its because ive made the choice and not been nagged into doing it by others… i always said i would do it in my own time i didn’t need others nagging me all the time and i think if i actually stay off them this time i may prove i was right.
Dave bless him is still recovering from his bout of covid hes really tired at times and hes got brain fog which he didn’t like it when i said now you know how ive been feeling for the last 5 years… but my point was no one really knows how you feel until theyre in that position he say he does but he doesnt he cant feel my pain but i know his i know his rsi pain because ive had it so i immediately bought him all i could to help him when i realised he was suffering… he doesnt tell me these things i have to work it out for myself… hes a devil like that he doesnt like me worrying…
We had another scare when my friend came over and a couple of days later messaged me to say her husband had covid he has to test for work he had no symptoms so i was testing again like crazy to make sure i hadnt got it…
My latest thing is the doctors have after allowing me to take naproxin again to help my arthritis pain stopped it as haematology are worried i may get a stomach ulcer so next week its anither conversation to see what they can give me to help with the pain “if i still have it” err yes i do do they think its going to magically disappear after a couple of months its arthritis it doesnt go away
Anyhoo enough of what ive been up to i hope you all have a great weekend we got a fun packed one planned with one little boy
Happy Friday everyone
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Great to hear from you @Ells and I hoped your radio silence meant that you were busy with ‘life’.
I am so glad that you are starting getting on with life and started to integrate back into that world out there.
I have gone back to Pilates and seen some friends and it did give me a really warm glow just to interact with others.
I celebrated a friends 50th and another friends 80th birthdays, both of which took place in 2020.
I have been doing some stunning walks in the good weather around the Royal parks and on a local river towpath. I have seen baby bunnies, baby swans, baby ducks, baby geese and baby deer
A bird with a serious upset tummy deposited on my hat, yes, I know it is supposed to be lucky, the lucky part was that I was putting on a wash load when I got home and I also got stung by a dozy wasp, which was not lucky .
We are going to a community sports afternoon and dog show tomorrow on the Rec opposite us
Happy weekend with Littlun, I hope Dave feels better soon, Covid is nasty and I hope your pain meds get sorted,
Past my bedtime
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Hi @Erica
How are you doing i cant believe its been so long since ive been on but ive been poorly were back to sqaure one with the meds
I stopped the naproxin… once they were out of my system we tried me stopping zapain for the first time since my back has been bad and trying tramadol after a week we defided to stay on them bur the doctor didnt listen to me and sent the prescription to Lloyd so for delivery and not my local pharmacy result no meds as they were out of stock and i ended up on withdrawal for a few days as i went back on zapain until the tramadol turned up… result also meant i was constipated so i took my doctor prescribed senna for a few days until i went… 2 days after that the world fell out of me every time i tried to eat for 2 weeks until i could get the doctor to agree with me that it was the tramadol… and yep you guessed it more withdrawal and i did it myself… the doctors just advised me to do it slowly that was their in put and only becaise i had to point out my withdrawal when i had to wait for meds… so now we’re back on zapain suffering with constipation been through a day 10 stint which ended monday and the constipation started again on Wednesday so im hoping this lot finishes quicker… we’re off to wales on 28th looking forward to that and I’ll be sorting out my meds when i get back we’ll start again 
mums here in this aweful heat i dont do well in it at all ive managed to get sunburn and talking of burning ive had a moment… ive had some issues getting my nails to stay on where ive been so poorly so instead of redoing them i decided it would be a great idea to glue them back on especially as they have been coming off after a day… well i was doing one of my nails last weekend and i tipped my hand over then felt this burning pain on my leg… . Brain was saying youve spilt glue on yourself and you need to get your leggings off and sort youself quick… body didnt move… brain said better move its getting hotter… body still didnt move… brain shouted now !! Body jumped into action ripped off the leggings (big mistake) and went to dave to tell him what i did and ended up with a dressing on my thigh for a week as it blistered… what an idiot its still healing…
Well id like to carry this on and give some more updates but we have ashton today and im being told i need to go out in my car for some reason so thats going to be fun in this heat…
I do hope youre all coping better than i am in this heat… happy moday everyone xx
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Well @Ells what a palaver you have had.
I really feel yukky when I am constipated and the memories came flooding back when you mentioned Senna. My mother used to boil Senna pods in water and I had to drink the horrible filmy liquor. I cannot remember if they worked or not. I also think of the ‘Carry On Cleo’ film that had Sheila Hancock playing a Senna Pod character.
What a fun and games you had with your nails and a really nasty blister burning yourself and I presume a ruined pair of leggings.
Enjoy Ashton and I hope that car is not tooooooo hot and you go somewhere out of the sun.
Yes, Happy Monday and all week @Ells, keep cool and out of that burning sun !!!
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Hi @Erica
I hate taking the senna but its getting me back on track that and the gallons of water im having to drink as well as i seem to be so dehydrated at the moment it doesnt matter if its boiling hot or just a normal day im still having to drink loads to keep me on track… ive only been like it since being so poorly but hey ho that’s life…
Omg how aweful for im glad its in tablet form and i dont like taking those they have a nasty after taste 
Not only did i ruin a pair of leggings they jist happen to be my favorite pair but on the bright side going through my drawers this evening to pack ive found i had actually bought another pair in the same colour so alls good now… my leg is still healing im on week 3 now i guess it’ll heal eventually im a slow healer i still have a bruise on my shon i did when sorting the room out just before mum came to stay and that was about 4 or 5 weeks ago i did that
Oh yes poor devil hes really missed his ellen walks i took him out at the weeknd for the first time in 2 months dave didnt realise it had been so long id been stuck inside for recovering… i was desperate to get out properly… i have really suffered for it but i just wanted to get out… it was so lovely not to be sat in the garden for a change…
Dont talk to me about cars mine really doesnt like the heat it broke down on me i had taken ashton for a drive with mum it just stopped working luckily i wasnt going far only to collect meds i manahed to get it to my sons which was nearby where it sat for a few days and then we went and picked it up… dave wasnt happy with me cars are a mans territory so when i knew what was wrong and was right not him it went down like a lead balloon but of course he had to find something to nit pick over so i just took that one let him have his moment all in all lesson learnt dont drive my poor baby when it goes over a certain temperature as its like a woman going through the menopause and cant cope .
I will do my best to keep out of the burning sun especially as i know im not supposed to be out there or at the very least im supposed to stay covered up…
Im off to do some more packing as we’re going away wednesday and im not ready daves even less ready and i got his washing to do as hes currently wearing clothes he wants to take away with him… i hope its not raining again tomorrow… i pray for just a few hours where its dry so i can get the washing out… its not like ive been asking for his washing sonce friday or anything lucky im used to this and itll all fade away once we’re in the car and driving off into the sunset quite literally as we’re going in the evening 
Most definitely happy monday and all week @Erica i hope youre doing well and this heat hasnt melted you too much
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Hi @Ells you are always getting into a pickle aren’t you.
Yes, it is important to keep out of the sun.
I wear a very fetching hat, well I think it is anyway, I can either have the brim flat or up like a panama hat.
It also folds up so it goes in my bag.
The trouble is in the heat we have been experiencing when I take my hat off my hair is a soggy, dripping mess and I end up looking a mix of Worsel Gummidge and Friar Tuck.
Last Thursday was the first time in 9 mths that I could really wash my hair without having a dressing on the top of my head.
So great progress at last.
If I was going away on Wednesday I would be sitting on my suitcase several days before !!!
Driving into the sunset sounds magical to me, where are you going?
I hope you have an absolutely brilliant time and a good recharge of your own batteries, enjoy and I await hearing all about it.
Spoil yourselves.
Hi @Erica before you start reading this you may want to get a cuppa its a long one xx
Yep i sure do… its very entertaining for people around me… i dont know where all the tine goes its been ages again since ive been on here…
So i now have a new hat as i been to stay at muns aftee my holiday which was in wales we spent a week with daves parents which was just what the doctor ordered i spent most if the week chilling with daves mum while he went out places with his dad and ashton… his mum was a little poorly so was waiting for some test results and more meds i tell you between my mum daves mum and me we could open a pharmacy with rhe amount of meds we take between us and now me dads decided to get in on the act he got diagnosed with an irregular heart beat hes been suffering for years with pains and tiredness and it toom his wofes care team to pick up there was something wrong and escalate it for something to be done as he kept being fobbed off the amount of tines hes been told theres nothing wrong.
it was such a shame that i had a funeral to go to when we came back which has now turned into 3 funerals and a wedding sounds like a 
in the making … mum said she had soeted me out a hat for while i was there of which i did take the mick a bit as its not the sirt of hat i would usually wear. Im more of a cap type person but by the end of my time at hers id ordered myself a lovely pink hat which dave loves and it keeps my top half covered nicely but youre right on being a dripping mess i thought i was the only one who felt and looked like worzel gummage by rhw tine i took my hats off… talking of worzel he used to freak me out as a child wheb he changed his heads looking back its so funny… i bet you feel so good not having the dressing on now … im normally so organised when going away but i think with rhe funeral i was coming back to i just couldnt get motivated at all to do anything and i left it all to the last minute ans then realised the friday before we were going away how much time i had left even then i said im normally ready by now usually only have mt laat minute things to do… so i did washing over the weekend. We had aahton trying on clothes as hes had a growth spurt both of us were trying to figure out what to take and i did what i could around having little dude i say little hes 13 next month but bless him with his difficulties i still think if him as little… we will be having another recharge of batteries soon with the wedding as its in wales dave is best man so again more stress as dave buys the suit in colours that really arent him but hes best man so doesnt have a choice its a posh wedding so we’re doing posh for the day i can do posh but would rather not it doesnt come natural… but on the bright side i get to watch dave strut his stuff into the wedding reception as theyve decided its how the wedding party are going to enter the room poor man cant dance… so hes decided hes going to do a combination of the dance from the inbetweener ls film and fresh prince of bell air the one alfonso does to tom jones all done to a justin beiber song so it sould be hilarious… after that we’re going to spend a week chilling as itll be our anniversary and hopefully no more funerals as weve had our 3… so ive ordered my dress which matches the colour of the suit tie qhich luckily for me is red and today had to order a bew handbag and purse this is getting expensive weve still go a wedding present to sort out for them if anyone has any ideas id like to buy them something unique ive not discussed it with dave but he usually trusts my ideas as he knows im right anyho id better leave this update here or it’s going to tuen into the script for the
Hope everyone is doing good
Happy omg ive no idea what day of the week im on already which sounds about right considering i turned up an hour late for a blood test as i was convince i had the right ti e and i booked the appointment online even had an email confirmation luckily they still took me in tomorrow i get to be up at stupid oclock for the dentist… im so lucky 
so happy week everyone enjoy yourself i hope you had a cuppa while reading this… 
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Hi @Ells I’m still here, I made it to the end.
I didn’t have a cuppa as I had just had my mug of boiling water after my dinner.
You never have a quiet time do you.
Your pink hat sounds very ‘fetching’.
Yes, I keep my local pharmacy going too.
3 funerals and a wedding is a lot going on for you.
I bet Ashton is really growing now I cannot believe he is 13 next month.
I still think of my son, who is 48yrs old, as my little boy, by the way he is currently the best son in all the world because he manged to get our old integrated fridge (it’s door kept closed with tape) off it’s plinth and out of the kitchen and remove the plinth after work on the hottest day of the year for us.
I bet you and Dave will both look stunning in your outfits for this wedding, but you are so right that going to a wedding does not come cheap.
I shall think of you being Chris de Burgh’s ‘Lady in Red’ and you will steal the show.
I cannot believe after next weekend, the Bank Holiday weekend, we will be going into September and I shall be looking forward to getting into my onesie to watch ‘Strictly’.
Look after yourselves and enjoy your week ‘chilling’ and a very happy anniversary to you both.
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Gosh @Erica. I can’t believe it onesie and strictly time again. How time flies!
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Will be getting mine out too🙃
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Mine is a pink/orange/red honey monster onesie and it is so cosy !!
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