Oh @Ells if you forget anything how important is it.
All you need is your family, new home and be ready to have the mickey taken out of you if you forget the sprouts !!
Being happy is everything.
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Hi @Erica
Of course you are correct…
I don’t think we did forget anything if we did it wasn’t noticed 
and nope we didn’t forget the sprouts 
I hope everyone had a happy Christmas and a great new year… We’ve been busy sorting the new house and the old one ready to hand back
It’s strange although this house is smaller it doesn’t feel it… Still so happy… But back to being stressed while struggling to give up smoking however I am doing it despite wanting so much to go down the shop and buy cigarettes … So far have managed 10 days without one… One happy dave… One not so happy me right now but I’ll get there I’m sure
I hope everyone has a great day 
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Hi @Ells. Ten days is a great achievement! I can imagine the cravings are difficult but you are doing so well. Keep going! If the house feels right then it was definitely the right move for you. I took my decorations down today. Enjoying a Childers afternoon in a tidy house. Bliss!
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Wow, @Ells you are really doing brilliantly going 10 days without a ciggie. Apparently the withdrawals can be so, so horrible.
Can you get any support via your GP surgery or anywhere else, personally I would take every help you can get?
We are here to support you with your continuing to stop smoking as well.
2022 is the year of your new home, enjoy.
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Hi @Ells. How are you doing? Have you managed to resist a cigarette?
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Hi @Erica & @Nichola75
I’m struggling and have had a puff but I’m still persevering… I got 1 more week of having littlun at the weekend and then we have a free weekend that will help me alot…
It’s been a bit mental the last week mums gone home now so time to find some sort of normality in our new home at last… Daves still working on getting the old house sorted ready to hand back and thats a stress we could do without so I’ll be glad when that’s gone…
I tell you something I wish when I gave up last year I didn’t give in to the craving I would of made it. I was so stupid at the time to think it would just be 1 cigarette I would hate it and that would be it… I managed 3 months that time… I will get there this time I’m determined to… I think now Christmas is over and things are starting to settle down and I have ideas for this house which means my ciggy money will go on that
Our decorations came down quite early what we had of them and dave finally put the bare tree away today he spent some of his spare time in this house for a change
Poor man all his free time has been at the old house decorating, cleaning and bringing back the last of the bits we left there…
On another note I have a consultant appointment on Thursday see what he says about my recovery from my back op… I’m not going to be running that marathon any time soon
I hope you’re all doing good I’m going to make more of an effort to come on here again I keep losing days and before I know it a week has passed…
Happy Sunday every one 
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Hi @Ells I firmly believe I keep going and keep going and then my body has to hit me with a sledge hammer to make me slow down.
Just think about what you have had to do over the last few weeks, it must catch up with you sooner or later, you must both be absolutely exhausted and running on empty.
On top of that you have had the stress of giving up smoking.
Exhaustion is not just physical it is also emotional and practical.
Please let us know what your consultant says on Thursday.
You have been the Dynamic Duo, be kind to yourselves and perhaps do something to spoil yourselves as well.
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Hi @Erica
Well I’ve not been feeling 100% not sleeping at the right times isn’t helping me. But good news the old house is being handed back on Monday which means we moved a month ago and I can’t believe it’s been that long. I’m still struggling with this giving up smoking but after this weekend we won’t have littlun for a weekend so I’m going to give it a really good go.
The consultant went OK I’m seeing him again in 6 months. He admitted he was disappointed I’ve not recovered as well as expected and said we knew it may not work. The op itself was a success it’s just the recovery isn’t going so well. He has now suggested I get an exercise bike so that’s our next thing to look out for.
I have this morning spoken to my gp and I am despite what the consultant said going back on to naproxin to help my pain as it is good for arthritis. We’ve also discussed the fact it’s probably spread to my shoulders, hips, feet and hands. So what fun. If we can ease the pain there then I’ll be able to exercise more which is the ultimate goal and build up my muscles…
Back to our house and we’re still sorting it out we’ve been planning what to do in each room I’ve bought a few things to make our room look nice and the bathroom has colour in it. Plus the spare room will have a colour scheme. We’ve planned where our pitcitre are going and dave bought me a Welsh dresser from our charity shop for the kitchen it looks lovely gives up some great storage and I’ve displayed my things in it. Not sure what to do in littlun room I feel it could with something in there its looking a little bare maybe something on the walls I’m not sure as we have to be careful with him he tends to pull at things any ideas?
I hope everyone is doing good I’m not really making enough effort to be on here I’m still losing days being so tired during the day then not sleeping at night I’m all over the place.
Happy Friday every one…
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No need to apologise @Ells . It sounds like you’ve actually achieved a lot with everything that you’ve had to contend with. I hope things start to improve. Good luck with quitting!
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Hi @Ells I think you are being really hard on yourself you seem to me to have achieved a lot in a very small amount of time.
Perhaps Littlun will have some ideas for his room which are manageable.
Hopefully posting everything and your ideas, thoughts and feelings on this forum will break it all down for you and help you find a way forward and plan.
You are doing brilliantly with stopping smoking, it cannot be easy.
It will be a great weight off your mind when you hand the old house back.
What are others thoughts.
Thank you so much… Maybe I am just sometimes I wish I could do more than I can… Well the keys have gone back which is such a weight off our minds just waiting game now to see what the landlady says…
Just had to look and see where we were with our catch up… Well I started back on the naproxin on Monday and managed to fall down stairs yesterday no idea how I did that but nearly did it again this afternoon on the same stair too… 
It’s not done my back or neck any good at all but never mind I’m still carrying on. I’m trying to make sure I go out for a walk every day now and so far so good… House sorting has started this evening dave has gone at it now he’s recovered from all the old house stuff and having a tooth pulled yesterday poor man I know how he feels… I got to say he’s looking alot more human and so less stressed and tired today for the first time in ages… Not that I’ve told him can’t be paying him too many compliments he might start expecting them all the time 
Hope everyone is doing good and keeping well
Happy Wednesday 
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Oh @Ells what you doing falling down the stairs…nearly twice.
You must be so relieved to have handed your old house back.
Yes, a little walk every day really clears my mind and makes me feel so much better.
Take your time house sorting both of you.
Oh, go on pay poor old Dave a compliment he has worked so hard and he has had a tooth out.
Be kind to yourselves
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Hi @Erica
Dave got his compliment he was a bit shocked bless him he wanted to know what I was after
I’ve been trying so hard I’m not walking far it’s taking me an hour to do this I even go stopped by a really lovely school girl in Friday who asked me if I was OK as I was struggling so much… Of course me being me said I was fine… We are so happy the house has gone back and not only that the landlady has given dave back his deposit she decided she wasn’t going to argue. We though she was going to over the living room but she saw sense in the end… He worked so hard bless him… Slowly but surely the new house is coming along… After this weekend it’s looking alot better as daves had more time to sort his things more which has been great for him to do instead of not being here…
I know i can’t believe I fell and nearly fell but I’m now being so much more careful on the stairs I still don’t know how I did it… I am now officially blaming the meds as I don’t want to blame my own stupidity
We saw our friends today they helped us out yet again and they said we seem so much more relaxed and happier since we moved… I said I am. They’ve said its been a blessing for us really… Not ideal the timing but it’s been good for us and we’re seeing it as a fresh start… 
Happy Monday im early for a change… Enjoy your day… Hope you’re not too cold the morning for me is aparently going to be - 1…
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A fresh start is sometimes just what the doctor ordered!
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Hi @Ells Oh I did laugh at Dave when you did give him a compliment, good for you.
Take it from me after 33 yrs together a compliment, words of appreciation or a thank you go a long way on both sides
Yes, a fresh, more relaxed, start is a blessing, make the most of it, life is not a rehearsal, slow and steady wins the race. I’ve been reading too many Xmas cracker mottoes.
Happy week everyone.
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Hi @Nichola75 & @Erica
Happy Monday 
how have you both been…
Well I’ve been having fun tackling my chores and going for my walks every day its slowly doing me in I thought I was supposed to start feeling better not worse…
Dave is comical at times he’s been singing since he got home from the office which prompted me to ask if he’d got his leg over today reply not no my love I only have eyes for you but you must be joking the state of the women I work with
Oh yes compliments certainly do go a long way… I still feel so much happier and know i have all the time in the world to do things… Speaking of which we’re (as in dave with me just watching) sorting out the spare room tonight
We’ve decided that we’re going to be putting a company against my consultant. Fed up with him now. After 6 months of not being allowed to take naproxin my gp wrote and ask why as he wants to prescribe it to me. Response no issues with her having it!! 3rd thing now since the op so I’ve had enough of it he’s clearly not looking out for my health now the op has been done…
Christmas cracker mottos are awesome dave looks at me funny when I laugh at the jokes
Wow 33 years that’s amazing… We’re on 6years…
Happy week too 
xx
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Hi @Ells
I love the banter between you and Dave, I don’t think I have ever heard hubby singing, it’s me who loves my music.
You and Dave both sound so much happier and relaxed now you have moved and given back the old place.
I am impressed with your GP writing to your consultant, good for them.
Oh, 33 yrs is a miracle, especially as 2 yrs of that has been in lockdown together !!!
Laughing together is the best medicine and the prescription for a long relationship
and I did not read that in a Christmas Cracker !!!
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Hi @Ells. It’s sounds like you’re the only women for him!
I’m 21 years in and 6 married. If you can get through lockdown @Ells and @Erica , you can get through anything!
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Hi @Erica @Nichola75
Well that’s so true… I’ve got a long way to go to catch up with you 2 with my relationship but you’re right we did survive lockdown together …
I can’t believe it’s been 2 weeks since I’ve been on here but nothing much has happened except a trip to see mum last week which was lovely… Nice to get away and be spoilt. In return i was helping her to start sorting her front bedroom it used to be the room she slept in with her husband but won’t go in there since he passed away… So I said if go in every time I stay and bring things out to her and we’ll do it that way now she’s ready to tackle it… I do think if it’s completely redecorated she may decide to go back in there again
Anyho whats everyone else been up to… Hope you’re all good…
Happy Tuesday
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Hi @Ells. It’s good to hear from you.
I’m glad nothing huge has happened and that you have just had a nice is it to your mum cheered you up.
That’s a really nice way of helping your mum sort out the room. Not to overwhelming.
Half term here. Wish the weather was better. However, being tucked up in the warm isn’t such a bad thing sometimes!
We are away on Thursday night - weather looks ok, albeit windy!
I hope the next couple of weeks continue to be non eventful (in the nicest possible way!)
Lots of love X
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